Healing from Infidelity: Why Do We Abandon Ourselves? “Somewhere along the way in my own journey, I realized I was abandoning myself. With help from a few infidelity experts, I came to a realization that me sacrificing myself was not going to save the marriage.” The above quote is from a woman I spoke with recently, who wept at the realization that she had abandoned herself in an attempt to save her marriage. While she was constantly trying to do whatever it took to save the marriage, her spouse was not all in. He wasn’t even half in, if you will. For many who are trying to save their marriage, the thought of losing their significant other is excruciatingly painful and traumatic. But, one party’s efforts alone cannot save the relationship after infidelity. Along the way of repair work, we’re tempted to not stand up for our own needs in the relationship. We’re willing to abandon our wants, our needs, our desires, all in an attempt to preserve familiarity. After all, familiarity is safety. Today, I’ll share insight into how to not abandon ourselves while still trying to save our relationship. You don't have to do this alone. EMS Online registration opens soon! This 13-week online course for couples provides community, guidance, and expertly developed tools for healing. This is the help you've been waiting for. "Affair Recovery's EMS Online course literally saved our marriage from divorce. We had tried other professionals, which only led us to more pain in our marriage. It was a relief to find someone who understood our pain. It was comforting to know that others were feeling and thinking the same thoughts as us. We were not alone on this journey. Our marriage has been enriched by the valuable lessons we have learned through EMS Online." — K., Alabama. Click the button below to sign up to be notified in advance of next registration opening—it sells out quickly! Subscribe to Registration Notifications!