Q&A How Do I Begin to Deal with This Being True?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Tue, 09/22/2020 - 10:32

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My husband had a three year emotional affair with a woman 20 years younger. He says he never stopped loving me and is actively engaged in recovery. He tells me he loves me but he has lied about everything. My feeling is that he may say he loves me but is not “in love” with me. I feel a disconnection in our shared intimacy that speaks to me of this possibility. His emotional affair has been physically over for a year now. How do I begin to deal with this being true?

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The encouraging response is appreciated, so forgive me, but either I didn't understand what was being asked or the the question was not answered. I thought it had to do more with how does one begin to deal with the fact that affair even happened. As the Betrayed I have such a hard time feeling what he is telling me happened is even true. It doesn't feel like the acts he committed is something he experienced firsthand, it just may as well be a story he is telling about someone else.

The encouraging response is

Submitted by [name hidden] on

The encouraging response is appreciated, so forgive me, but either I didn't understand what was being asked or the the question was not answered. I thought it had to do more with how does one begin to deal with the fact that affair even happened. As the Betrayed I have such a hard time feeling what he is telling me happened is even true. It doesn't feel like the acts he committed is something he experienced firsthand, it just may as well be a story he is telling about someone else.

The encouraging response is

Submitted by [name hidden] on

The encouraging response is appreciated, so forgive me, but either I didn't understand what was being asked or the the question was not answered. I thought it had to do more with how does one begin to deal with the fact that affair even happened. As the Betrayed I have such a hard time feeling what he is telling me happened is even true. It doesn't feel like the acts he committed is something he experienced firsthand, it just may as well be a story he is telling about someone else.

The encouraging response is

Submitted by [name hidden] on

The encouraging response is appreciated, so forgive me, but either I didn't understand what was being asked or the the question was not answered. I thought it had to do more with how does one begin to deal with the fact that affair even happened. As the Betrayed I have such a hard time feeling what he is telling me happened is even true. It doesn't feel like the acts he committed is something he experienced firsthand, it just may as well be a story he is telling about someone else.

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