My husband had a four year affair that recently ended. I knew of most of it but hid my head in the sand and denied it until the official D-Day 7 months ago, at which time I made my husband move out. My husband had an epiphany and understands that he was in limerence. He has apologized profusely and has moved back home, mostly due to the fact that we can't afford double rent and he has some medical procedures where he will need. I want proof that his affair partner has been contacted and told that it is 100% over and he will never contact her again. How do I go about this? How do I set my boundaries without being seen as the over reactive person, which he claimed I was but I was not for all these years? What is the first step of us discussing our situation? Is there some timeline or outline of what should be discussed and settled first? I want this to work but I also do not want to fall back on any old patterns and I want a clean honest slate. I just don't know where to start with him.