During the 1st weeks and months after D day, my wayward spouse "admitted to things" and then later took them back and said they never happened. He says he only admitted to those things because he either "thought I would believe nothing other than that" or " it may or may not have happened so he is taking responsibility for it, though he believes it never happened". This was an 8 month relational affair. It was 2 years ago. He was never drunk or on drugs. We have ground Zero tomorrow for EMSO. He knows if he keeps with this story of "not remembering", that we are separating tomorrow.