Q&A Should I Hear My Mate's Feelings for the Affair Partner

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Wed, 08/03/2016 - 14:15

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My husband has cut off all contact with his AP, it has been 6 weeks. He is still ambivalent, although he rarely talks about those feelings because he "doesn't want to hurt me". Should I encourage him to tell me about those feelings as a way for us to be closer, or is it OK for me to not want to hear about it? Because it does hurt me to hear him say it.

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
-D, Texas