Years ago, John entered my office requesting help for his dilemma: "Women are always coming on to me," he began, "and my wife is really upset about it. What can I do?"
Puzzled, I asked him to give me examples. I assured him I was better looking than him and didn't have the same problem. I said, "There must be something more going on."
John said, "Well, one woman came into my office today, kicked off her shoes, came behind my desk and began to give me a back rub."
"Really?" I replied, "Give me another example." "Well at the little league game on Saturday, I was sitting in the stands watching my son play when a woman came up and sat beside me. She gave me a great big hug and said she was counting the hours until she saw me at the game."
"Incredible," I responded, "I've been to a lot of little league games and I've never...
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In 2019, I had a recurrence of cancer, so I was going through three months of radiation treatment. My wife, Steph, and I needed to run a few errands in Austin before getting back to Houston for my treatment appointment later in the day. We had plenty of time.
But when we got in the car to leave, it wouldn't start. The battery was dead. I put the car in neutral and pushed it out so I could use my tractor to jump start the car. So, I pulled my tractor up next to the car to jump it. It was a great idea except the tractor battery wasn't strong enough to...
Disclosure.
The disclosure process is usually the most painful and confusing aspect of recovering from infidelity. It can also be the biggest barrier for couples trying to get unstuck.
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As a concept, it doesn't seem that difficult. Painful, yes, but can't it be easier? Well, yes to both. It is painful, and it can be simpler than most people make it....
In His presence there is peace, freedom, and comfort. Rodney and Angela remind us that we have the privilege and freedom to bring all of our emotions to God, including the difficult ones. He is a faithful friend, fierce warrior, and compassionate counselor, and though what we face may not seem good, He is always working for our good. His mercies endure forever.
Are you at a place where you can't seem to get away from the constant triggers and reminders of the affair? Are intrusive thoughts keeping you from sleep, work, or being able to function?
Did you know that in the early weeks following discovery, it is quite possible for the betrayed spouse to have several hundred of these a day? Will it ever get better? Will they lessen in frequency? Wayward spouses, does it seem that your mate can't do anything else but think about the affair and ask questions?
Even though I am extremely pragmatic by nature, I found myself needing many concepts simply and basically explained to me during my recovery from infidelity. Now that I am a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a member of Affair Recovery's Emergency...
Hi. I’m Karen Baker supervised by Rick Reynolds. In this video, I'll lead you through a short, guided meditation on compassion. Opening our hearts and practicing self-compassion and compassion for others can help us accept and give space to our anxieties.
Sometimes, focused and kind attention is all we need to feel more at peace and ease. Experiencing betrayal is a deeply traumatic experience, and your whole being becomes incredibly dysregulated at a moment's notice. Compassion for others and even for ourselves might seem impossible right now. And, of course, it does.
But I encourage you to follow along, take what works for you, and leave what doesn't. And notice without...
If you've ever heard your betrayed mate say, "I would like to trust you again, but I just can't." This is for you.
If you are the wayward spouse and are trying to figure out what it means to become a safe person to repair the damage done by your infidelity, this is for you too.
Wayward spouse, while trying to do everything you can to aid the recovery, have you ever taken the stance or expressed the attitude of, "I'm doing everything I can." With a sigh of frustration, have you ever said something like, "I am taking all the classes and working so hard." Other times, you might have thought, "This whole process is driving me crazy. I can't take these questions anymore," as you shake your head and wonder why your injured spouse may say...
I’m Karen Baker, a graduate counseling intern for Crossroad Counseling Associate, supervised by Rick Reynolds.
In this video, I'll lead you through a short, guided meditation on compassion specifically for anxiety. Opening our hearts by practicing self-compassion and compassion for others can help us accept and give space to our own anxieties. In this meditation, we will extend compassion to a loved one. Let me preface this and say that it can be anyone. It doesn't have to be your partner. It could even be a younger version of yourself.
Experiencing betrayal is deeply traumatic. Your entire being and whole self can become dysregulated at any moment's notice, and...
Hello. I am Candace. Should you stay, or should you go post D-Day? I'll tell you who tends to have the instant answer to that question- everyone who has never been sucker punched by infidelity firsthand. Whether you are the betrayed or the wayward partner, we know that decision is not as easy as people make it out to be.
There are so many things to consider. I want to begin this post by acknowledging that there are a significant number of betrayed spouses out there who are never given a chance to answer that question because that choice was made for them by their partner. If that happened to you, please know you are not alone. For those of us who find ourselves looking for the “sign” to stay or go,...
Gaslighting coupled with infidelity is extremely toxic.
When talking about gaslighting or infidelity, each on its own can devastate the safety and trust of any relationship. But together, they form an especially dangerous mix. Understanding their dynamics and learning how to navigate the impact can be the first step in healing and preventing even further harm.
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The term gaslighting originated from a 1944 film called...
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