What Does Change Look Like? Today I was reminded of a story by Portia Nelson I heard long ago: Autobiography in Five Chapters by Portia Nelson Chapter One: I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk I fall in. I am lost... I am hopeless. It isn't my fault. It takes forever to find a way out. Chapter Two: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I'm in the same place. But it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out. Chapter Three: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in... it's a habit My eyes are open; I know where I am; It is my fault. I get out immediately. Chapter Four: I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it. Chapter Five: I walk down another street. I still have so far to go but I am desperately searching for the different street. And while I'm not suggesting this is the "end all be all" of how change occurs, it reminds me of how difficult and painstakingly slow change can be. I'd like to thank my husband and every betrayed spouse who is graciously giving us time to sort through the personal pain we have transmitted onto you. Thank you for giving us the time to "get it". I will probably never fully grasp the grace you bestow on us this side of heaven. I don't know where you find yourself in this journey of recovery but my desire is that this provides hope today to continue forward. Thankfully, Affair Recovery is full of options to help us navigate our way to a new street without holes.