I Didn't Know I Was Grieving

I lost the marriage I thought I had. I lost the fairy tale I believed in. I lost hope. Lynn offers thoughts on grieving while walking through betrayal.

Lynn is the author of Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal, a devotional for women dealing with the trauma and heartache of betrayal.

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Thank you Lynn for this very timely blog. I have been grieving. Grieving for the marriage I lost, the dream, the what I thought would never happen happening. I don't think my husband understands the deep sense of loss that I have. He tries. See he was my knight in shining armor that rode in and saved me, mostly from my own destructive behaviors. He saw something in me I never saw in myself. Our relationship provided me with a self worth I had never know before and now I am so unsure of everything. I am sure most women feel the same way that I have, that their husbands would never do this to them. I grieve for the husband that I lost. I grieve for the father that my daughter lost. (She found out by accident). Working through the grief once the initial shock and pain has subsided is the struggle I was not prepared for.

so much loss

Thank you for taking the time to comment. You are not alone. One thing I've been thinking about is how my husband was an important part of the healing process. Yes, your husband fell off his white horse, but I believe he could rise up and there for you again in a new way. I will be blogging about that soon. I am praying for you all and especially for you and your daughter as you grieve.

Totally off subject

This is totally off subject, but I just love your shirt. LOL.

Thank you!

Ah - thank you :)


It was refreshing seeing this off topic post. Thanks for the smile!


I listened to you at Hope Rising. I believe I was still in shock after being 11 days past my UH’s polygraph. His polygraph revealed so many more layers of infidelity including SA. Now, a couple months later, after the Hope Rising conference day, a recent attendance at an EMS Intensive weekend, continuing with my after HH group calls with a strong group of ladies, and starting our after EMS group phone calls, I am seeing that I am still dealing with my losses going through this journey of recovery.
I wanted to be past this. I wanted to fast track this. I’m finding that I need to be patient and accepting of where I am in my recovery. I’m recognizing that I’m not willing to stuff this anymore. Thank you for helping me see this.

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