Good stuff here, Samuel. One of the hardest parts about all this is that while I am still dealing with being in a state of limerence with my ex-AP, I don't have much desire for my wife and the marriage. So i'm doing the work out of obligation with very little want-to, which I know you've dealt with in a past video. In essence, affairs are born out of selfishness, and now the Unfaithful is being asked to stop being selfish, with the hopes that the reality of losing the marriage/family/assets will be enough to wake them up. I still need to be woken up. Sometimes I wonder if a trial separation of around a month would wake me up, while knowing full-well that I might enjoy it and then want to proceed with a divorce, despite most signs pointing towards staying together being the right thing.