Question John and Leslie,  I just finished reading the chapter that discusses codependency. Before the discovery of my husband's affair I realize that both my husband and I were codependent in various ways. As we are trying to reconcile our relationship I do not want to go back to that lifestyle; however, I feel like as I am gaining strength from God, I need my husband less and I am relying on him less. There is part of me that is unsure of my level of commitment or desire to be wi…