Question I found out about my husband's affair after he passed away. The affair lasted a year and a half. We were married 25 years. I had no clue that he was unfaithful...at all. He was caring, provided for me, we had a great sex life, we led a small group, etc. The perfect couple or so I thought. When I was closing out his cell phone account, bank accounts, etc. that's when I discovered the affair. There is no doubt there was an affair. So I'm grieving the loss of my husband (with very mi…