Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question After over a year with my husband not being able to provide the healing behavior that is necessary, he cannot even talk about what he did, it seems my anger is becoming harder to control. He keeps saying the right words, but does not follow up with behavior. His theory is avoid at all costs. He would rather allow me to suffer, than take the initiative to provide compassion or comfort. If I bring up a subject, to remind him of a promise …