Samuel I just want to say you just keep hitting it out of the park.....Didn't you mention one time you played baseball? Well your batting average is way up there dude.
Samantha if you don't want to do the face video thing, at least consider a blog. It would be cool for Samuel to do a video and then you follow up with your side of the story. I was almost to happy to hear that y'all where over a year from D-day when this happened. I really think sometimes my husband thinks I am the only woman on the planet that was still pretty pissed for that long.
And the story you shared made me feel better about "running away" for a weekend after my husband had a medical procedure. He had some spots treated on his face and could not leave the house for 3 days, so I dropped him off at home and left.
This blog or vlog was right on time. An idiot I work with managed to say everything negative thing that you mentioned about why a man cheats on his wife at work. I tried to remember he is an IDIOT and an arrogant one at that to just not listen to me...but the trigger was there. Came home explained the trigger to my husband...we listened to your blog together. He affirmed that I was NONE of those things that people that assume those things are just uneducated and judgmental, reminded me it was his bad choices, we agreed my co worker is an arrogant idiot, and had a good rest of the day.

Thanks for what you do, Thanks Samantha for being his sounding board and for not giving up. Some weeks my only hope has hinged on seeing and hearing the stories of couples that made it.

SLM

Samuel,
Are you really saying the best way to restore the honor of the betrayed is for the betrayed to forgive the unfaithful spouse? Sure the unfaithful has to work to restore his own honor by living the life he should have always lived. Does that restore the betrayed's honor?

I've accepted the situation, I've worked hard to forgive my husband, but he has not restored my honor in the eyes of his APs who believe that we had a bad marriage, we married too young, that my husband was a good man who wouldn't leave me because he is responsible and needed to provide for me financially and for the kids. Even after my husband no longer had sexual relations with his APs he continued to be friends with each of them, to keep in touch and even visit with them, taking them to restaurants, museums, etc. After D-day, he told each of them that he saw his relationship with them as a "mistake" and he was going to try to work it out with his wife. There were decades of lies he told the APs which cause me dishonor in their eyes.

I'm doing my best to accept the situation, to understand he is working hard to restore his own honor, to recover from an addiction, and to forgive. I think we've made great progress. I never felt dishonored by friends and family, even those who know what he did, because my value comes from how they know I've lived my life and what kind of person I am. I struggle with the APs who my husband let into my marriage, shared information about our children, and painted a very different picture of me and of our marriage than what was going on. They each felt special to him and none of them knew about the other APs. Each of them thought they were his first and only AP, Each heard that he was in love with them.

Is there not anything that my husband can do to restore my honor among the many women who have a very poor understanding of who I am, who my husband was and who they were to him?