brianems, it's troubling to say the least. i'm very sorry for the pain of it all for sure. it's a huge guess, but the family piece may be something for sure. often times the pressure from family, when someone is very close to their family, is too much and they resort to pulling back significantly. i don't want to simply give you things that could have happened, as i'm sure your mind is rushing with those potential situations. i agree with you that there certainly could be someone else, yet it's so hard to tell with such limited info. what has been her communication with you or has there been much at all? when spouses are close with family members, it can be difficult for sure as they are torn between what they want and what they want their family to feel and how they don't want to disappoint their family. it can become paralysis for them for sure. has she been open to any counseling at all? have you spoken to rick at all?