My wife and I are in our 33rd year of marriage. We have been going through recovery for over 16 months now. Over that time, I have caused her great pain and trauma by revealing truths in bits and pieces, lying, withholding and couching information, in spite of her pleas to reveal everything all at once. Through much research on our own (thanks to my wife) it seems pretty clear that I have strong introverted narcissistic tendencies that have caused me to act in extremely selfish ways throughout our marriage, including over the last 16 months with the slow and painful revelation of truth. At the same time, my wife, who grew up an only child with a narcissistic single mother, is an emotional and empathetic person who has always supported our children and myself. She is extremely sensitive to selfish behaviours, especially related to dishonesty. She has been traumatized by my behaviour, and is showing signs of complex PTSD. She suffers from extreme anger, depression and emotional pain, especially following an episode of my lying or withholding truth. We are at a point now where I have revealed all the truth that I can recall, much of which has revealed past dishonesty. The problem is that when I have a new thought that needs to be revealed, I still can have a tendency to lie or delay telling it. My wife is at a point now where even the slightest digression is a trigger for her traumatic feelings. We both want to put this past us and move ahead with our lives together. What can we do in this situation?