Samuel Addresses the Statement: 'I Don't Know If I Believe in Us Anymore.'

Samuel, Alumnus
Submitted by Samuel 7 years 7 months

Samuel addresses the situation where a couple may not believe in their marriage again.

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I would highly recommend giving this a try.
 
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Submitted by Chelsea O (not verified) on 7 years 5 months

This is a great discussion! I truly believe in getting expert help in order to heal from traumatic events or experiences. I am the unfaithful and my husband has never been keen on therapy or getting help from outside sources. I've told him how crucial it is to have support from others going through similar events. He's not sure what to do. I feel he's leaning more towards divorce since I have committed multiple infidelities. He's lost, and I'm starting to really put in the effort to find my way. How ironic....

Submitted by Anya P. (not verified) on 7 years 5 months

Hi Samuel, thank you for all the great videos you did. As a betrayed wife I stumbles upon your videos and watched countless of hours a day, just soaking them in because I want my husband, because I want my marriage, but I am at a point I don't think I believe in us anymore. It's been 1 year since the affair stopped but there is no real progress in our recovery, I feel unsafe, I feel abandoned and unloved. I tried to push recovery videos, I tried leaving Recovery up to him, but nothing is happening, he is much more interested in nurturing his new relationships with new found male friends than he is in nurturing our marriage. Overall it's a 4 year long story and I'm tired of giving and not receiving much in return. However your videos are great and they are good resources for couples wanting recovery. Keep up the good work and God bless you.

Submitted by Samuel on 7 years 5 months

thank you anya.  means a ton to hear such great feedback and insight from you.  i'm sorry for what you're walking through and what you're having to deal with.  appreciate you commenting and watching.  i'll pray for you tonight. 

 

Submitted by carpeDM on 7 years 2 months

Samuel, your videos really help me. I am an unfaithful. What you say resonates with me that the "old us" has been ripped to shreds. We're getting help but my wife says that not only does she not believe in the "old us," but there can't be a new us because my behavior was immoral and she can't be with someone that is immoral. I'm despairing because I'm in shame and I have no answer to this or how to explain why we should continue to get recovery help.

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