Samuel, you are spot on! This describes my unfaithful husband to a "T"; speaking "his" languages. He said he would do Bootcamp. I worked through it in Feb. We got him signed up almost two weeks ago, though, I have no idea if he has followed through, since I'm standing my ground to not do his work for him.....ask about his progress, micromanage, etc. I need to see him taking responsibility and actively participating. He needs to see this video post. I'm grateful that you share so much so willingly. These posts and the forum give me much hope. I like Rick's analogy of bringing a horse to water..... I've shown my husband what I need for him to do.....(Bootcamp, peruse the AR website, and EMSO).....he just needs to follow through and do it. Blessing to all at AR. You are a blessing to me!

I wish every affair had it's purpose like yours and Samantha's has. I hate it took that to bring you here but I hope you both know you're making a change in the lives of many and speaking God's words in ways He needed you to speak to us - thank you Samuel, and I'm sorry for your lost, but it's been used in a way to glorify the Lord and comfort the hurting. Thank you for your sacrifice and your words of wisdom. If only every affair could have such a benefit the betrayed may be more forgiving. God bless you for helping us at least find someone on our side to guide us. Carry on!

We have days of difficulty and days of celebration. I believe your blog has been a big part of our healing process. Although we are new into this ugly journey, your words give us hope. I (the betrayed) started to share certain blogs with my husband and he now does the same with me. We talk with each other when a certain blog or article hits home. They have been a starting point to many raw, but needed, discussions. There certainly are days when I feel as if I'm going to give up, crawl into a corner and stay - I reach for this website. Continue to do what you do - sharing your story of healing and faith.

My husband’s infidelity was 13 years ago. Unfortunately, our counseling was lacking. We’ve been married 34 years. He left two months ago to work on himself. He said he has been unhappy for years and that I stomped his self-esteem and that’s the reason he cheated. I accept that I had resentment towards him for being blamed for his choices. I love him, he’s a good man. He said he’s not sure he wants to work on the marriage but he says he loves me. I recently found your vlogs and they explain a lot. I lash out all the time and I realize it’s because I don’t feel safe. I didn’t have a support system and dealt with the trauma alone. I sent him the vlogs to help him understand and he said that he was overwhelmed and being pressured. I can not describe my anguish at my marriage falling apart.