When You're Weary in Recovery

Samuel lays out a recovery protocol for weariness in recovery from the effects from infidelity.

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How to endure?

How do I endure the name calling and the anger? I see progress, but then just when it seems like we are doing kind of "ok." his anger strikes again and I feel crushed. I am almost to the point of giving up and I'm not a quitter either! I pray every day. It's been almost a year, how do I endure his extreme outbursts and name calling? The anniversary date is coming up next week and I'm terrified.

what help have you received?

hi there.  what help have you utilized?  a year isn't much time to be honest.  if you've gotten great help, then a year may have put you further along, but if it's been a year, with just general help and general work, then I don't think it's been long enough for those things to stop.  it's not right, don't get me wrong, but it's his anger manifesting with outbursts at you. you are the unf is that correct?  he will need help to stop those outbursts. they won't go away on his own and they won't stop without him having some sort of expert help to intervene and help him know what to do with the anger and the rage.  it's all due to hurt, but without healing the hurt we can't get to the anger.  does that make sense?

so glad you posted.

 

replying....

I've been using your videos and affairrecovery.com. I've also used 2 other online programs. (Yes, I'm the uf.) He refuses to get any help. He will not talk to anyone. I understand everything that I read and hear, but I feel like it's "preaching to the choir," HE needs to hear these things and he refuses. I don't know how much longer I can hang on. Thank you for your reply. I love your work.

Weary to the extreme

Sadly, my husband had a child with his AP. He is too weary to do recovery work. We have 3 kids of our own. I've never seen such a broken soul and don't know how he is going to wrap himself around acceptance of this situation. His weariness is pulling him down so far. I've know for 6 months. He kept it
from me for two years. we started recovery work strong...but, he lost sight bc of guilt over his son.
Have you ever done a blog about children born out of infedelity. I/we desperately need some insight and someone to talk to about this situation who has been through it. Resources are limited..
Thank you for all that you do for us. I literally don't think I could have made it these last months without your guidance.

Oh My God....wow that must be

Oh My God....wow that must be beyond painful and cannot imagine what you must be going through. I hope that you can find some peace and strength through this. I am curious to know, as well, stories with children resulting from affairs. This instance must be THE hardest and most complex to go through. I am so sorry...

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