if you like, you can email the ar staff at info@hope-now.com and put attention samuel and ask them to send it to me and i'll do my best to answer as soon as i'm able. thanks so much for watching and for your kind words.

Joanna, as usual, thank you so much for your comments and for being a fan of the vlog. your comments always encourage me. i would have to agree, that sometimes, in some situations, the fact is, a spouse is with their affair partner and they are staying. they've lied to themselves, or they have justified it to a point of complete and total self deception and they are locked in with their affair partner. it's grievous to say the least. and it's incredibly painful for the betrayed. in those situations, i think the best and probably only thing you, the betrayed can do, is do self care and get the healing you need for your own recovery. if you have kids, you've still got to parent them and be a wonderful mom in spite of the pain and the hurt you are feeling. if there aren't kids, you also still have the rest of your life ahead of you. while you may remarry or choose not to, your life is not over and you're not 'done' as a valuable person who has life in you and ahead of you. so i think there is a point where you have to move on in life and pursue your own healing and your own recovery, courageously and boldly, knowing you've done all you could to save the marriage and now it's time to simply get the healing you need for the life ahead of you.