Woven into our basic makeup is the desire and need to “do life together”. By connecting with others - sharing openly, being honest, and not minimizing our struggles, we develop healthy stress coping mechanisms that enable us to get out of our own heads and keep our hearts and minds healthy.
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Today, I want to discuss a crucial step for the betrayed spouse when recovering from infidelity: letting go. And there’s a lot to this. It’s letting go of the past, letting go...
After disclosure, it's common for a husband or wife in crisis to ask, What should I do next?" It's a fair question. After your world has been turned upside down by infidelity, it's difficult to know what the proper course of action is to help repair the damage. "What if my spouse is ambivalent?" is another fair question, which can dictate what steps you decide to take in the immediate...
Have you ever done something that just didn't work? When I was 9, I dared my 6-year-old brother to kiss a snapping turtle. Somehow, neither of us anticipated the outcome. The turtle grabbed Jay's lip, and what followed is the stuff of legends. He went into sheer panic mode and started running around, screaming with the turtle hanging from his bottom lip. I chased after him to help him get the darn thing unattached from his lip before Mom discovered my dastardly deed. As you might imagine, it cost me a pretty penny to keep Jay quiet about my failed...
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Are you struggling with shame after infidelity and have no idea how to break free from it? This week, I'd like to share material from our Hope for Healing course for wayward spouses. I believe with these tips and insights in hand, the wayward spouse can begin to assess their...
The Paralysis of Ambivalence: A Two-Part Series
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Part 1: Is Ambivalence Common When Healing From Infidelity? Part 2: How Can You Move Past Ambivalence After Infidelity?
One truth we've learned at Affair Recovery is that it's not just time that heals wounds; it's how you spend the time that heals wounds. Often, I hear about or see couples that are just plain "stuck." The good news is you don't have to be stuck. You can move toward healing, gain momentum, and sustain, it during your recovery journey.
You might be saying to yourself, "Easier said than done, Rick." I hear you. Trust me, I do. I'm not going to tell you it's easy to move forward....
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Ever been afraid to look at something? For instance, when you rear-end someone's car and are afraid to get out and look at the damage? Why is it hard for us to look, to acknowledge what happened, and to assume responsibility for our part in it? Tim Keller said in his book, The Meaning of Marriage, , "Love without truth is sentimentality;...
Continue Healing at the Hope Rising Conference for Betrayed Spouses!
Recovering from infidelity pain? Take a brave step out of the turmoil and do something just for yourself. Join us for the virtual Hope Rising conference on September 30. We've planned an event only for betrayed spouses filled with hope, practical strategies and resources.
I want to start off today by saying this...
Designed specifically for wayward spouses, Hope for Healing is a supportive, nonjudgmental environment for you to heal and develop empathy. Over the years, this 17-week, small group course has helped thousands of people find hope, set healthy boundaries and move toward extraordinary lives.
"I just finished Hope for Healing and am proud of the changes that I already feel in...
Part 1: Discovery: Processing the Details of the Affair Part 2: Discovery: Why Do I Want to Know?
Last week, we kicked off our discussion on discovery and the processing of the numerous and overwhelming details. Today, I'd like to continue the conversation by presenting an important fact: During disclosure of the...
Healing from the trauma of infidelity is a multi-step process. After the difficult step of disclosure ccomes yet another challenging process: Handling the details. How you address...
I went to an end-of-the-year bash with a bunch of friends during my junior year in high school. We had a great time grilling burgers and listening to music, but two of my friends wanted a bit more excitement and decided to put a cup of ice down my pants. I, on the other hand, wasn't interested in this type of fun and the chase began.
I was faster than my friends, but also lazy. I didn't want to expend too much...
This isn't another light-and-fluffy program that only scratches the surface of your pain. The EMS Weekend Experience is a safe space for you and your partner to start putting the pieces of your life back together, transform your trauma and begin healing from infidelity. Skeptical about the effectiveness of this experience? Don't be! Backed by a slew...
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Although there's no undoing the hurt caused by infidelity, it is possible to accept it and also accept where your life is at because of it. That's where you can begin to be free...
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At Affair Recovery, we're committed to helping people heal as individuals and as couples. But how does one know whether it's worth the effort, pain, and commitment to pursue...
This week, we are privileged to hear from Michael...
Part 1: The Fog of Self Desception Part 2: Were They Predisposed to Cheat? Part 3: Justifications of the Unfaithful
Part 1: The Fog of Self-Deception Part 2: Were They Predisposed to Cheat? Part 3: Justifications of the Unfaithful
Cover more ground faster with the...
Part 1: How to Handle Discovery? Part 2: Advice for the Wayward Spouse Part 3: Guidelines for Discovery Part 4: Goals for the Betrayed
Harboring Hope is our online...
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Join other betrayed mates on the path to healing with our life-changing Harboring Hope online course...
Betrayed spouses, why do you really want to know what happened?
Unfaithful spouses, why would you want to tell your...
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Several years ago, my daughter had to go it alone. It wasn't infidelity, but it was very scary for her--and her parents--I might add!...
"When you are standing in [a] forest of sorrow, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure...
How Could You? A Six Part Series on Why We Commit Betrayal with Infidelity
Part 1: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Part 2: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal Part 3: Moral Justifications Part 4: Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Part 5: The Secrecy Factor...
Part 1: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Part 2: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal Part 3: Moral Justifications Part 4: Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Part 5: The Secrecy Factor Part 6: Dehumanization and Blame
Part 1: Why We Commit Betrayal With Infidelity Part 2: The Thought Processes That Lead to Betrayal Part 3: Moral Justifications Part 4: Doublespeak and Distorted Comparisons Part 5: The Secrecy Factor Part 6: Dehumanization and Blame...
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