Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

My Spouse Had an Affair: What Should I Do Now?

After disclosure, it's common for a husband or wife in crisis to ask, What should I do next?" It's a fair question. After your world has been turned upside down by infidelity, it's difficult to know what the proper course of action is to help repair the damage. "What if my spouse is ambivalent?" is another fair question, which can dictate what steps you decide to take in the immediate future. With the uncertainty of the marriage and family swirling around both spouses, finding a unified and strategic course of action can be both challenging and frustrating, but it doesn't have to be.

Our Emergency Marital Seminar Online, better known as EMSO, isn't a one-size-fits-all program for couples. Over decades of experience exclusively in the field of infidelity, our methodology has been honed to better serve couples as they address the betrayal, reconnect as partners and restore their lives.

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To answer the first question: If you're a couple in crisis, and you are wondering what steps you should take after disclosure, I'd like to encourage you to consider our EMS Online course. Over the course of 13 weeks, EMS Online provides specialized tools for both spouses to heal after infidelity. Whether you had an affair or are the betrayed spouse, this small-group course is a great place to begin learning about what happened and gain the tools you each need to move forward. Watch the preview below of an EMS Online Alumni couple, Rodney and Angela.

Meet Rodney and Angela

You can find Rodney and Angela's incredible, full story included with our EMS Online course. Take a look at this short glimpse into their journey and see what's possible, no matter how hopeless it may feel for you right now.

When you're trying to get your feet under you and cope with the pain of infidelity, there's something powerful about hearing stories of those who've gone through what you're going through. Some stories are worse. Some maybe aren't as bad as yours. What's also vital is hearing that they've made it through to the other side and can actually share with you what was, what is and what they believe will be. Here at Affairecovery.com we love and celebrate survival stories of all kinds. Today you're in for a truly special one, filled with gracious vulnerability and raw courage.  

We know that what you're going through is incredibly difficult and that, on top of that, joining something that is unknown can be scary, so we'd like to share just a few of the hundreds of testimonials we've received from individuals who've successfully completed our EMS Online course.

"Affair Recovery's EMS Online course literally saved our marriage from divorce. It was a relief to find someone who understood our pain. It was comforting to know that others were feeling and thinking the same thoughts as us."

"This course saved our marriage. EMS Online helped both of us understand each other on a level we never have before. We are closer now than we have ever been in 25 years of marriage and 36 years of knowing each other."

"I just finished EMS Online a few days ago and those 13 weeks ran so fast. It would have been impossible for me to move forward if it weren't for Affair Recovery's help. Your course is a blessing for those who are in desperate need of help."

When you take the EMS Online course for couples, we provide a different alumni couple's story each week, which will provide insight on how they successfully made it to the other side. Here is a sneak peek at one of our full-length inspirational alumni stories:

Meet Jeff and Liz

After disclosure that a spouse had an affair, many couples will immediately run to professional counseling for help and, I must admit, there are both pros and cons to this. Before making an appointment with just any marriage counselor, I highly encourage you to read our article "Infidelity Counseling: How Effective Is It?" The fact of the matter is that when you're a couple in crisis, you need the care of a specialist, not just a generalist. I implore you to do your research and choose a professional who is an infidelity expert and, ideally, has helped many couples after disclosure.

It's become my life's work to provide a safe place where both couples and individuals can heal after infidelity. At Affair Recovery, our personal stories of healing create the opportunity for us to be knowledgeable guides to others who, unfortunately, have also encountered this tragedy. Whether you're a couple in crisis, had an affair, or are the hurt spouse, I hope and pray you'll take action to move toward healing so you can minimize the collateral damage and find the hope and perspective you need to live an extraordinary life!

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Our Emergency Marital Seminar Online, better known as EMSO, isn't a one-size-fits-all program for couples. Over decades of experience exclusively in the field of infidelity, our methodology has been honed to better serve couples as they address the betrayal, reconnect as partners and restore their lives.

"I would like to say thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for your ministry and the materials you have provided as part of EMSO and Married for Life. We, all five couples that started EMSO, have just completed the Married for Life 52-week course. We are now deciding what to study next as a group, as we so value the relationship we have together as couples. With God, with your materials and with each other, we have saved our marriages." - B. Minnesota | EMSO participant, March 2021.

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Hola necesito ayuda, estoy en un estado de desesperanza, a 3 meses me divorcié, tengo ayuda de mi familia, mis hijos están con migo
Se que tome la mejor decisión, no quiero volver con esa persona

Me siento Fatal, necesito ayuda, se me apaga la luz interna

[Hello, I need help, I am in a state of hopelessness, 3 months later I got divorced, I have help from my family, my children are with me
I know I made the best decision, I don't want to go back to that person.

I feel terrible, I need help, my internal light goes out]

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