Surviving Infidelity: Will I Ever Be the Same Again and Can I Heal from This Awful Uncertainty?

"Will my marriage or relationship ever be the same again?" This is one of the most common questions when a couple enters a therapist's office, wondering if they can actually survive infidelity. There are no easy answers, but there is tangible hope when the right guidance and pathways are provided to couples in crisis. While infidelity is extremely traumatic for a marriage, it doesn't have to be the end, or figuratively cremate the relationship while the couple makes mistake after mistake wondering why nothing is working. It is vital that both partners are willing to do the work to heal, from either their own mistakes, or the mistakes of their spouse. "This is your problem... so you are going to do the work and I'm not doing anything" speaks to the pain of the betrayed, but does not remedy the palatable trauma lurking in the heart and mind of the betrayed. While the unfaithful has been the catalyst to the infidelity, more work remains to heal the underlying issues in both partners. Without a proven pathway to healing by experts who have survived infidelity before, the repair work can be not only unfulfilling, but clumsy and unhelpful. As a prominent philosopher once said, "There is a better way." Today you'll hear Samuel, an actual survivor of infidelity, share how he and countless others have found joy and meaning again, even after the disclosure of infidelity and/or addiction.

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"I just completed the Harboring Hope program. My husband was unfaithful to me emotionally, physically and sexually with a co-worker. What I wished I would've known is that forgiveness and reconciliation are two different things. People who refuse to forgive can never live their own lives, they are too busy obsessing about the life of the one who hurt them. They are stuck. They are unable to enjoy friends, family or even their children. They imprison themselves in a bondage of their own making. I definitely recommend the Harboring Hope program as a support for healing. To be in a safe community with other women who know what you're going through and how you're feeling is comforting. Whether you're able to reconcile or not, there is hope." — M., Michigan | HH Participant, April 2021.

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