Samuel shares key points on how to gain momentum early on in recovery.
My husband and I have maneuvered the quagmire of recovery for well over three years now. We’ve had some deep lows and amazing highs but overall a slow and steady healing and maturing of our marriage and relationship. During this time I’ve often wondered how two people could have been in the same stale, boring marriage yet made such wildly different decisions. I know others have pondered the same question. There are...
Samuel shares insight and perspective on how the unfaithful can deal with this crucial struggle.
Lynn shares five ways she found healing in community.
This week, my team and I are incredibly honored to share part one of a two part guest post series from our friend and fellow pioneer in caring for couples in crisis, Cindy Beall1. Cindy is a fantastic writer, speaker and mentor of women who are on their own journey of healing from the effects of infidelity. Her first book Healing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken, was released in 2011 and has been a wonderful source of encouragement and hope to many. We are priviledged to have Cindy as the keynote speaker for our first annual Hope Rising One-Day Conference for betrayed spouse's coming up in October.
Samuel shares insight about how to break free of an affair partner and find freedom mentally and emotionally.
Samuel shares insight into the recovery principle of "if you can't talk about it, you're not healed."
Samuel explains the difference between remaking and recapturing during the early days of recovery from infidelity.
Samuel shares insight surrounding the truth that not all spouses want to save their marriage.
Samuel gets personal today sharing his own story of ambivalence.
Samuel discusses new approaches to healing from infidelity.
Samuel discusses how entitlement undermines recovery for both spouses.
Samuel shares from the early days of disclosure and his battle with suicide.
Samuel shares pivotal insight how both spouses have to want healing and restoration.
Samuel answers the question of when desire returns to the picture for the unfaithful spouse.
Samuel discusses what one author calls 'aimless anger' in recovery.
Samuel discusses the pitfall of constantly reevaluating your recovery.
Samuel tackles the question of from many viewers of will it always be this painful?
Samuel tackles the mindset of never being the same again after discovering infidelity.
Samuel discusses a struggle all spouses seem to fall into during recovery work.
Samuel answers viewers comments on why the unfaithful isn't aware of the consequence of their choices.
Samuel shares part two of why humility and honesty must be present in recovery.
Samuel shares part one of why humility and honesty must be present in recovery.
Samuel shares examples of some of the worst things to do in the recovery process.
Samuel shares why spouses absolutely need the right support to heal.
Frequently in marital conflict, it’s not the topic of our conversations that cause the problem; it’s the contempt or disrespect that’s communicated through stonewalling. When trying to survive infidelity, emotions run high, neither party feels cared for or valued by their partner and the chaos seems insurmountable.
After 35 years of helping couples in crisis due to infidelity, I have found that shutting each other down by refusing to communicate only makes things worse.
If you’re the one courageous enough to bring up the...
Samuel discusses a sensitive pitfall for couples seeking recovery.
Samuel tackles the pivotal question unfaithful spouses struggle with.
A few years ago, we did a “Barriers to Communication” Survey. We were overwhelmed by the response, leaving us with scads of information for future articles and program development. The #1 barrier to communication identified by couples impacted by infidelity was stonewalling, followed by anger.
While anger comes as no surprise given the devastation created by betrayal, I didn’t expect stonewalling to come in first (and by quite a majority too).
Stonewalling is a total refusal to listen to, respond to or accept influence from your...
Samuel continues the discussion on the unfaithful spouse's journey of dealing with self rejection.
