Thank you so much for this video. I am hoping my husband will agree to watch this and many others. He has refused any kind of tracking app (had one for a few weeks but then he removed it) or to share password information for anything including social media or email accounts because he said he needs his privacy. This has created a chasm of questions and mistrust for me. We are 11 months out from discovery & I am trying to be patient as as our communication is improving, significantly in the last month, and he has demonstrated empathy for several months. Being able to trust again could ultimately be a deal breaker after time for me though. I firmly believe a man with nothing to hide hides nothing so little red flags are still everywhere that he may not actually be safe, just better at hiding & deceiving.

This is THE key to recovery. If you are not getting this support from the unfaithful, demand it! Samuel speaks the truth from his heart, he's been there. Thank you Samuel, you are helping heal minute by minute, day by day.

I finally demanded my spouse get on find friends and go back to counselor regularly to deal with everything and the past or move out. He agreed, but it did make him angry. He's not liking me controlling him like a parent he says. But I am actually just getting my life in control. I'm assuming it is normal for the spouse to be upset with these demands. He was thinking EMS weekend and the weekly group calls afterward were enough, but they aren't enough. I waited too long to demand what I need for safety and trust. If he doesn't follow through I will demand he leaves.

Tammy