How Can I Make It up to My Spouse That I Have Cheated?

Samuel answers a viewer's question about making it up to the betrayed spouse.

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how to "make it up to the family"

Samuel, can you include a vlog into your journey with Samantha's family and/or your's through this recovery phase? What things should be said that are helpful/hurtful for the families?

hi there. thanks for the suggestion...

thank you for the suggestion.  i'll see what I can do.


the ultimate silence

Love all your vlogs but more questions for your order to protect our 2 young adult children after a long term affair (13 years), we chose to keep the news to 2 family members and our therapist. Hard, well yes! But deep down we knew that there was no returning to anything normal if everyone knew our laundry. I know it wasn't your story but perhaps you can offer any help, such as, how the recovery process will look different. We can't be the only ones as we are a group of stone silent mind your own business type. I'm hoping you have spoken to other people like us and what you know works/helps.

There is no “make-up”

I sent this off to my husband, he is the unfaithful with porn and masturbation addiction.
It was disclosed to me January 3, 2019.
We have been doing our own recovery work but there is a long way to go for him as the visuals he has accumulated for 43 years present a great problem in our relationship.
He was sexually abused and presented porn when he was 12, by his father and uncle.

I listen to your podcasts and have gained much useful information.
It looks as though a separation is in the immediate future.

Thank you so much for your honesty and you commitment to helping others


Just SO right on

Thank you for this video. Every single sentence. I will watch several times, and I hope my unfaithful husband watches, too. We are struggling recently, but last week was decent.
I still have a hard time accepting we are in this situation at all. His affair was very cliche in nature, plus she manipulated her way into our friend circle and involved the children. The hurtful part is that he didn't stand up to her when she would insist on the family involvement. He would not deny her anything, while stripping me of everything. It is beyond gross & distasteful. So, no, he will never be able to make it up to me.