Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

Trusting Again

About 15 years ago Stephanie and I decided it would be an adventure to experience real country life. So we bought some land and abandoned our city roots for the thrills and excitement of country living. 4-H, livestock, and chores replaced the hustle and bustle of city life; now we experience the agrarian life of our ancestors. In retrospect, we had no idea what we were doing or what we had gotten ourselves into. Having grown up a city boy I had no idea how to board horses or care for sheep. …
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Trust -Re-Trusting

It is still so hard to trust.  You never know if you will be hurt again.  I am there.  One year later, I still don't know if I can trust my husband again.  After 20 years of marriage, finding out that I was betrayed.  I don't know if I can love again.  I don't know what love is anymore.

Hurt/confused

Trusting again

You don't EVER want to experience that kind of pain again. even at the expence of maybe letting the best thing that ever happened to you slip thru your fingers. My case. I almost let the most important human, living, breathing thing slip by me. It took me 23 years to see and be able to trust him 100%. He stood by me and waited that long!!!!!!!!!!!! Now he has me 100%.

Great newsletter!

This is all so very good! I remember when my husband and I were recovering. It seemed like trusting again was impossible. It helps to learn good stuff like this! Thanks for all you do! We have been able to use your lessons to us and all your resources to help several couples facing the same ordeal.

Suzette

THIS IS WHERE I AM AT THE

THIS IS WHERE I AM AT THE MOMENT. IT IS SO DIFFICULT FOR ME TO TRUST MY PARTNER AGAIN, MERELY BECOURSE THIS AFFAIR WILL BE THE 5TH ONE. I HAVE FORGIVEN HIM 4 TIMES IN THE PAST TRUSTING THAT HE WILL NOT DO IT AGAIN, BUT HERE I AM. ITS LIKE, I CANT TRUST HIM AGAIN, AND IF I TAKE HIM BACK, I JUST HAVE TO LIVE WITH IT.

WHEN CAN YOU STOP FORGIVEN, OR IS THIS NOT ABOUT FORGIVENESS, WHAT ABOUT MY FEELINGS, THE MENTAL TORTURE AND EMOTIONAL STABILITY.

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