Survivors Blog: Samuel
Samuel
Alumnus, Wayward. Providing hope, encouragement and infidelity-specific insight to anyone in recovery from betrayal.
What If You Forgive Too Soon?
Samuel answers a viewer's question on some of the pitfalls of forgiving your spouse too soon.
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The Importance of Guardrails in Recovery
Samuel shares the concept of having proper guardrails in recovery after infidelity.
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Are You Listening for or against Your Spouse?
Samuel breaks down a tool in recovery that will help diffuse conflict and restore intimacy much quicker.
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Are You Crazy For Being Willing to Forgive Your Spouse?
Samuel answers the question of the betrayed spouse, 'Am i crazy for being willing to stay and forgive?'.
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What Will It Cost Me If I Don't Do This?
Samuel shares a hard hitting recovery principle not only for infidelity recovery but general marriage healing as well.
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We Are What We Feed on in Recovery
Our emotional diet in recovery speaks volumes. Today Samuel reflects on we are what we feed on.
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Don't Be That Person That You Know You Can Become
Today Samuel shares insight on how to stay away from bitterness and how to to avoid the pitfalls of regret.
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It's Time to Cut the Anchor
Samuel shares a humorous but telling story from his childhood which paints a picture of recovery for both spouses who are stuck.
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What Do You Do If Your Unfaithful Spouse Can't Remember?
Samuel tackles a difficult but necessary discussion regarding the inability to remember details by the unfaithful spouse.
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How to Unlock Your Spouse
Today Samuel uses an analogy to discuss how to allow the process of recovery to mold not only yourself but your spouse as well.
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Don't Be a Victim to Recovery Micromanagement
Today Samuel discusses how to flow through the endless ups and downs in recovery.
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Why Your Spouse Can't and Won't Hear You
Today Samuel shares his own experience in adjusting to life after disclosure and embracing new patterns in life.
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Help for the Unfaithful in Changing Their Image
Samuel answers a viewer's question and helps the unfaithful understand they have power to change their image in the mind of the betrayed.
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Changing the Way a Betrayed Sees Their Spouse
Samuel answers a viewer's question on how to alter the way they see their spouse early on in recovery.
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What Forgiveness Is and Isn't
Today Samuel takes us through a crash course in forgiveness, sharing what it is, what it isn't, and what it actually means to forgive.
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Our New Life we Never Saw
Today Samuel shares key insight and vision into the new life he and Samantha experience but never saw as a possibility early on.
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Recovery is About 'Unremarkable' Days
Samuel shares insight into how recovery doesn't gain momentum upon the mountaintops but through the seemingly unremarkable, mundane days spent in the valleys below.
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Why is my Unfaithful Spouse so Angry?
Today Samuel delves into the anger of the unfaithful spouse.
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Am I Chasing Away My Spouse With Expectations?
Today Samuel tackles the concern of pushing the unfaithful toward their affair partner.
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Recovery is about Detoxing
Detoxing in recovery is not always about the unfaithful spouse and their affair partner or habits, but also about uprooting dysfunction.
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My Spouse Won't Stop Doing This
Samuel shares insight on the belief "What a Betrayed Spouse Tolerates they Reinforce".
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Why Spouse's Say, "It's Never Enough for You" - Part 3
Samuel concludes the "It's never enough for you" series and shares ways to diffuse the frustration surrounding recovery.
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Why Spouse's Say, "It's Never Enough for You" - Part 2
Samuel continues his insight with thoughts on why betrayed spouses may say, "It's never enough for you".
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Why Spouse's Say, "It's Never Enough for You" - Part 1
Samuel shares insight into a phrase couples in recovery use often when they are frustrated: "It's never enough for you."
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Are You an Emotionally Intelligent Spouse? Part 2
Samuel continues a discussion today with part 2 of emotional intelligence.
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Are You an Emotionally Intelligent Spouse? Part 1
Samuel discusses a concept called emotional intelligence both in marriage and in recovery.
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You Should Hear Yourself
Samuel discusses a time when his mentor confronted him on his pride and justification.
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