Affair Recovery

Samuel discusses the topic of rushing through recovery after an affair and how we may find ourselves missing some important steps.

Samuel shares a jarring story of financial ruin while going through recovery from infidelity and the tools he and Samantha developed.

Samuel offers hope in this video from his own story on how to make it through a difficult day in recovery from an affair and infidelity.

When my husband’s affairs were discovered just over two years ago I had all the predictable emotions; anger, confusion, agony, and so much more. Eleven days later when we decided to work on our marriage I still had those emotions but now I had fear:

What if I let him come back home and he cheated again? What if I couldn’t “get over it”? What if I was wasting my time and energy on a failed attempt at reconciliation?

On the one hand, I felt as if it was necessary for me to try and save our marriage for many reasons:

We had almost 25 years together. He deserved a second chance. I wanted to...

In today's video, Samuel discusses resistance to recovery work after an affair and how to address the raw trauma of infidelity.

Two years since d-day. I can’t believe it! When my husband’s affairs were discovered I didn’t think I would survive that first day. The minutes were agonizing. Time slowed to a crawl. I was reduced to pure, raw emotion. There was no existence without pain. I wished I would die. I knew I would die. My heart was shattered and it would kill me.

Over the next few days I was in a fog. I took one day off work but that was all I could afford. When I wasn’t crying I would sit and stare. I worked by rote. Zombie. Barely functioning. My emotions were all over the place. I was furious, full of hatred,...

I did it. Over the past few weeks I have taken the time to go into my prayer closet and grieve.  I haven’t done it every day but I have done it at least 8 times over the course of two weeks and each time I leave feeling like a burden has been lifted.  I have learned over time that it is true when people say grief is a process.  It looks different for everybody.  I am also beginning to realize that I have not fully grieved the loss of my mother and other emotional hurts from my past.

However, God has been with me during this entire process.  One day on the way to see my...

Samuel begins a new video series on bitterness and it's effects on recovery from infidelity and affairs.

Samuel discusses how to restore honor in the marriage seeking restoration following infidelity and affairs in today's video.

Toward the end of EMS Weekend, we had one group session when they separated us into groups of only women and only men.  Leslie was leading our women’s only group and she gave a lot of good advice that I took to heart.  One of the things I distinctly remember her saying was,

"Life is going to get in the way.  If you need to cancel lunch dates last minute because you are having a bad day, do it.”

You need to prioritize your healing right now. 

I remember thinking, “I won’t have a problem doing this.  I don’t have any weekly activities scheduled right now so I...

Samuel shares ways to change particular marriage dances in recovery from affairs and infidelity.

Life is funny. I’m not talking about laughing till you cry funny, although there are plenty of times I’ve laughed till my cheeks ached and my belly hurt.  I’m talking about ironic, where the heck did that come from, turn your life upside down kind of funny. I’m talking about crazy, way out in left field, life changing kind of funny.           

I’m talking about a funny that never causes you to laugh.

Long before I married my husband, if the subject ever came up I would boldly and firmly declare to whoever was listening that I would never take back a man who...

Today Samuel discusses in his video how to disarm self pity and find personal healing in recovery from infidelity.

Samuel begins a new series on the unfaithful's journey through self pity after the disclosure of infidelity and affairs.