I liked your answers to this question. There are two issues I've been struggling with as we recover, one is that my husband as a sex addict, was with one woman 3 days before our anniversary and another a few days after. I was wondering how four months post disclosure I was to feel about our anniversary date going forward. In addition, my husband carelessly brought women to our home. At first I felt I immediately needed to sell our home, but that isn't financially feasible right now. I feel like taking my home back in spirit as a much more empowering way to see this situation. Keep the date, keep the home, retain what's good and memorable about each and rebuild.