Q&A Should We Create a New Anniversary Date?

Submitted by Leslie_Hardie Tue, 06/11/2019 - 15:16

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Today is the 30th Wedding Anniversary. In discovery, I learned my wife spent one of our wedding anniversaries with her affair partner. We are both willing to work on a new marriage and understand the old marriage is gone. What do we do about the old anniversary date? Do we pick a new one? I don't mind going out for dinner on our old anniversary dates and talking about the good times of our old marriage, but I do not want in any way shape or form to celebrate the old marriage.

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I liked your answers to this question. There are two issues I've been struggling with as we recover, one is that my husband as a sex addict, was with one woman 3 days before our anniversary and another a few days after. I was wondering how four months post disclosure I was to feel about our anniversary date going forward. In addition, my husband carelessly brought women to our home. At first I felt I immediately needed to sell our home, but that isn't financially feasible right now. I feel like taking my home back in spirit as a much more empowering way to see this situation. Keep the date, keep the home, retain what's good and memorable about each and rebuild.

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