I think you need to give yourself as much time as you need before you reengage physically with your husband. He wasn't completely honest at the beginning and now you have to start over in your healing process. He needs to understand how much worse he's making the chances for restoration possible by giving you a little info at a time. He shouldn't be pressuring you. He needs to deal with the absense of sexual intimacy and be ok with it. It's a good way to break sexual addiction if that's what he has.