Q&A Could This Be Sex Addiction and How Is That Different for Recovery?

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D-Day was on January 2020. My husband had been seeking encounters with strangers on websites. I discovered the truth through messages. He had this fantasy and he wanted to be with a wife in front of her husband. Just saying it aloud makes my stomach turn. He was asked to have sex with a man so he could be with the wife and he did, but couldn't finish so he never did his fantasy. My horror is knowing he was with a man. I'm afraid deep inside he is homosexual or bi and doesn't know it. He swears he likes women and all he cared about was doing his fantasy. How can I believe him? He has been a great listener, attentive to my needs, hearing me out when I'm triggered, and helping out with the kids but to this day he hasn't done any professional therapy which I have said I need so that I know he is trying to figure out the why. He just started a regeneration program at church. But I'm afraid he is a sex addict. He used to go on craigslist ads before we got married, so he has had sex with strangers before. How can I move past this thing of him being with man? Could he be gay? Could this be sex addiction and how is that different for recovery? I feel I have block this part so much because every time I think about this I get angry and feel my chest hurting and I have difficulty breathing.



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