Q&A When Is It Appropriate to Communicate to My Spouse That Their Behavior Is Not Acceptable?

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I am now 9 months out from D-Day, and I have not seen any action done by my wife that indicates she is doing any of the 'work'. I can't see my wife ever finding the motivation to do it on her on, and I am already starting to predict, and plan, how I would deal with it, when I get to the 18 month mark (which is my previously set duration for how long I'm willing to put my life on hold). For now I am working on myself, by participating in Harboring Hope, and I know, that if at the 18 month mark, I see no progress, then I would file for divorce. I've seen some of the other videos that Rick has posted, and it seems like it's usually around this time, where the betrayed spouse files for divorce, where the wayward spouse starts taking action. But my sense is, if we get to that point, where I have to file, I'm not so sure if there is anything she can do at that point in time that will make me want to put my life on hold again while she figures things out. I just need some examples on how those situations usually play out in your experience - and it would be helpful to share when it would be appropriate to communicate that her inaction is not acceptable, and how that conversation might look like.



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