Q&A How do we find the Truth between Two Different Perspectives of the Affair?”


My husband I have been working through his 8 month emotional affair that I discovered about 2-1/2 months ago. So far, my husband has told me that he had no romantic feelings for his AP that all they did was talk- and sometimes the conversations became sexual. I have seen some of the text conversations they had that were sexual and even heard a few voice mails she left him that led me to believe that she indeed had romantic feelings for him . He even says that he knew she did too and that is when he panicked and did not know how to get out of the relationship. He absolutely denies any feelings other than friendship for her and he has ended the relationship.

I am having a hard time wrapping my head around it because of the texts I read between the two of them and hearing her tone of voice and the terms of endearment she used when she called him. We both have different perspectives on what the relationship was and my husband is having a hard time knowing that I don't believe him and he thinks I never will and so we seem to be at a standstill in being able to continue the reconciliation of our relationship. My question is how do we get past that? What will ever change that I will believe him? I want to believe him and I feel like he is telling me the truth. But my mind says it doesn't make since.



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