Video Restricted to Recovery Library members. Question After 27 years of marriage, I learned about my Husbands infidelities for the last 17years! The first D-day was 42 months ago and it took 18 long months to have the big picture. He is remorseful and committed to the marriage. We went to individual therapy, couples therapy, we attended EMS Weekend, and we finished our Harboring Hope and Hope for Healing classes. I forgave his affairs, but I'm still in pain, don't feel safe, and I'm not r…