Q&A How can my Wife and I Handle my Lingering Feelings for my Affair Partner?

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How do you get rid of the lingering affections for the affair partner? I'm in love with my wife and I want to stay together for life; yet when she asks me if I still have feelings for the affair partner, I have to say "sometimes" and that hurts her badly. My affair lasted 4 ½ years. At first, I claimed I didn’t have any feelings for my affair partner anymore. I want ALL the feelings for the AP to be gone. How does that happen? How long will my feelings for her last? My feelings for her make it excruciatingly painful for my wife. How can my wife handle the pain of my ongoing feelings for her?



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