My husband had a 16 month emotionally limerent affair. He was already experiencing sexual performance issues before his affair began. Since we’ve come back together we’ve completed EMS Online and we are entering Married for Life. I will be registering for Harboring Hope this month, seeking counseling, and my husband will begin Hope for Healing in a couple of months. He’s shown great empathy and remorse and we are doing really well in all aspects of our marriage except physical intimacy. Before his affair he did not let the performance problems affect whether he was physically intimate with me in other ways but now he makes excuses, avoids the subject and laughs off my advances because “there’s nothing in it for him.” What are your thoughts and what do you suggest? I’m feeling very vulnerable now.