Q&A How Do I Keep from Making Things Worse?

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My husband and I recently completed EMS Online. Our D-Day was January 7th, 2018. My husband feels as if he has been a "yes" man for most of our relationship and now does not want to participate in Married for Life. He says he "does not want to be in therapy for the rest of his life". He also says that "he is not the 'broken little bird' that I want him to be". I started Married for Life two weeks ago without my spouse. I know if I were to ask him again he might do it but say that it's only for my sake and then further resent me for "always getting my way". He has also communicated that he is upset that I started Married for Life because he said that I know how he feels about it and he doesn't want to do it. He also told me that he now has no sexual desire, for me or for anyone and has cut-off sex in our marriage. I don't think he is cutting off sex to purposely hurt me. I think it's just honestly where he is at at the moment. I'm not sure what to say or do at this point. We both say that we want to stay married but it feels like we are moving in circles rather than in a direction towards healing. What should I do now and not make things worse?



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