Q&A How Long Does It Take for a Sex Addict to Come out of the Denial?

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I have watched many of the videos by Samuel when he talks about the unfaithful and defensiveness. I always get hope watching him. We are 15 months out from D-Day and my husband is a sex addict. He is in a 12 step group and is in therapy with a CSAT. We have done EMSO and are in a married for life group. I am also in individual counseling. My husband is still defensive and accuses me of shaming him when ever I want to talk about his 8 years of infidelity. He is only safe about 25% of the time. I am wondering how long it took Samuel to "Get It"? My husband says he wants to stay married but yet he struggles to be empathetic and show genuine remorse. If I can "pretend normal" we can have a great day. I feel like his ego gets in the way and he is prideful. I am losing hope. Can you elaborate on the timeline for an sex addict to come out of denial of the trauma his betrayal has caused?



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