Q&A How Long Will It Take for Feelings for the Affair Partner to Disappear?

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We had an encounter with the affair partner and her husband in public recently. In the traumatic aftermath of the event, my husband admitted feelings of empathy for the affair partner as she is clearly going through the grief stage after the affair ended. This hurt my heart deeply when he admitted this to me and now I feel very insecure, triggered and panicked that he could relapse. Their emotional affair was approximately 3 months long. I believe he entered limerence first and came out first as well. I know I've read the goal is for the wayward spouse to have no feelings whatsoever for the affair partner when mentioned-what has been your experience as far as general guidelines with how long it might take for his feelings for the affair partner to disappear?



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