Q&A Is it More Difficult for Men to Recover from Betrayal?

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Most of the questions submitted are from betrayed women, and the same seems true of the majority of those who post to the community forums. I know that men are more likely to be unfaithful then women, but it appears that even taking this into account, men are under-represented here. Do you have thoughts on why this is? I have also heard that divorce is more likely when the wife cheats rather than when the husband does. I understand in some cases this is because a woman may stray only after she has become quite disconnected, but do you also find that men just have a harder time getting over intimate betrayal even when other factors are equal? I know this be tough to answer without stereotypes and over-generalizations, but do you find any tools or strategies for recovery particularly helpful for betrayed men? Or have you found it best to think of it as a human process, rather than one that is gender-specific?



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Way Forward

My wife of 7yrs had an affair begining at our 5yr anniversary until very recent when she disclosed the AP. I am struggling with they way forward on account of our 2 children (DNA paternity tests confirmed). I have been cheated on in every "committed" relationship ive been in. The count is 5 in the last 17yrs. Before my wife, i swore off marriage and figured I was just not made for it nor would i find a partner who was compatible with me. I spend my sleepless nights reading the material on this site, but this has been the first actionable material (in my current state). Thank you.

Male, 35. D-day: 26Dec2020.

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