I am the betrayed and it has been 5 weeks since my wife's full disclosure. Although we have been sexually intimate several times since disclosure I am wondering if this is unhealthy for me? I have an overwhelming desire to feel loved and also be affectionate, even in my devastated state. Intrusive thoughts occur with every intimate act and flooding is the norm. I wane from anger to wanting intimacy and it's very confusing. At times I'm so upset that I don't want to be touched and other times I want to be held. My wife believes the intimacy is a good thing. She has been very repentant, supportive and loving. We have both enrolled in Hope for Healing and Harboring Hope. However, I can't help but wonder if this is somehow detrimental to my recovery. I have been tested for STDS.