Q&A Should We Continue EMS Online If My Spouse Continues to Blame Me for the Affair?

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Should we continue EMS Online at week 8, if my spouse continues to blame me for affair, play victim, and not do the work to focus on himself? He fell in love with the affair partner for two years plus a second affair. We were separated for 18 months after he told me he did not love me and wanted a divorce saying I ruined him. He punished me with bullying, verbal abuse this whole time while lying about having a girlfriend. Making plans to be a family with her and her child, while leaving his three kids and me. He is living at home now and willing to do this class. Every EMS call he is distracted on his phone, criticizes me while my turn to talk, hates on class afterwards, and gets angry at me for things I say on call. He was even on his computer while I was reading my 40 Costs. The other men in the group posted on group wall to my husband about his lack of commitment and efforts, insulting us. He speaks about my faults and little responsibility on calls.



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Just wanted to say how terribly sad I feel for what you are trying your best to deal with. My heart hurts for you and your situation, especially YOU being willing to do EMS while he is disrespecting not only you, but the others in the group. You’re the injured party, NOT him. I will pray for you, please know you are a valuable, precious person and you are not alone.

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