Q&A What Are Possibilities If My Spouse Isn't Comfortable with Group Work?

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Rick, my spouse and I are 6 months into transparency. We attend private counseling. We have read many books and are reading more. We are AR library members and are daily, yet passive participants. I've asked my spouse if she would like to participate more actively or if she would feel comfortable with me participating in your other programs (on or off-line). She prefers privacy (for both of us) and has always been socially reserved to the point of high anxiety. I certainly respect this and will not violate her sense of safety. However, I am feeling lonely and disparaged in my position as an unfaithful fool. I don't feel that I've been complacent but complacency is an issue that preoccupies my concern. I want to make sure that I'm doing everything I can to help us, as I've learned that I don't wield much wisdom and cannot rely upon my own will alone. A group environment seems to be calling me but it's off the table for now. Do you have suggestions that would help provide a sense of direction while yielding to my spouse's social anxiety?



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