My spouse and I are almost 5 months out from discovery. We have been married 10 years and have a 4 and 6 year old. The last 6 years of our relationship have been particularly stressful with a baby, moving states for his job training, another child 20 months later, my cancer diagnosis, and our decision to continue his training for an additional two years. This commitment requires him to live away from home in a different state each year and entails very long hours. We are together as a family on average of less than 48 hours per week. This already placed us in a very stressful and vulnerable situation, only then to discover the affair and other extramarital activity.

Not being very far out from discovery, I suffer intense anxiety and heartache, but particularly when he leaves every Sunday to drive back to work. With his upcoming transition to the next location in July, I do not feel secure and confident with there being so many unknowns. I fear for our stability and progress, and that this anxiety is furthered due to our living situation and lack of time together. How can we make the best of this and what advice could you give us to create a safe environment that inspires hope and growth, particularly over the next 13 months of continued living apart? Also how can I better process the flood of emotions that occur when he goes to leave on Sundays?