Q&A At What Point Should We Get a Restraining Order for the Affair Partner?

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We're 6 months from D-Day and we are in EMS Online. The affair partner has still been pursuing my husband, sending texts, showing up at our house, and stalking him. She's also mentally ill. We have a detached garage that my husband spends time in. He's a night owl so she’ll show up mostly at night to try and see him while I'm sleeping. She’ll just barge in if we forget to lock the door. She’s also made threats to raise false claims with the police, to harm me, and done numerous stunts to get attention when he ignores her such as going into our shop and stole money, threw a rock at our car, among other things. My other concern is that her pursuits have still been luring him at times -- he's given her rides home to get her off our property, let her wait in the shop for a ride, etc. I've told him to stop that because it leads her on, it creates a high risk situation with him and it makes me feel unsafe. We have security cameras up and have been ignoring her at the door and on the phone, except for those times I mentioned above. Any suggested boundaries to prevent him from getting tempted by her? Should he go so far as to change his phone number? I know you suggest it's best to ignore affair partners. At what point is it more prudent to get a restraining order?



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