My husband fell into category number one denying an emotional entanglement denying lies he told denying deceptive Behavior he carried out and he did it for three years. I can't even begin to try to assess the damage that has been done in that three years. He started waking up 2 what he had done about 3 or 4 months ago. Right now I just feel like I want nothing to do with him even though he is trying his hardest and his best. After three years of denial blame-shifting criticism verbal abuse and refusing to listen to the pain he put me through my feeling is of very little hope and when I read that the advice for people who find themselves with a mate that falls into category number one listed above is to run from that person no matter what progress we may have made in the last 3 or 4 months I am now returning to the feeling that I should go on and run now anyway even though I have seen a change.