Rick Reynolds, LCSW
by Rick Reynolds, LCSW
Founder & President, Affair Recovery

Hurt and Anger

"How much more grievous are the consequences of anger than the causes of it." -Marcus Aurelius I spoke with an angry man tonight. I actually hurt for him. He had an affair about 2 years ago, and since then he has been trying to gain his wife’s forgiveness. It hasn’t worked. Sometimes it doesn’t. What is sad isn’t her inability to forgive, but the fact that the bitterness resulting from what has occurred is destroying them both. In her hurt, rather than letting go and moving on, it se…
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The cycle

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years. It's been about 6 months since my last act and 5 months since everything has come out. I've been doing everything I can to make us safe (after a short period of acting lost, confused, and doing all the wrong things). My boyfriend has stuck around for 6 months trying to stick through this but this evening (and it's a cycle) he seemed to be at his wits end.. when a few days ago we were talking about moving together and getting married.. today he said he can't be in this struggle and stress and agony anymore. It's been a cycle of ups and downs the last 6 months.. but now I don't know what to do.. He said he's done.

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