By Amy C. Baker The woman on the other end of the telephone choked back her tears. "I am in such shock,” she said. She'd just discovered her husband had been living another life - a life of betrayal and lies and affairs and pornography. What's more, their best friends knew – church friends – and the devastating truth was just coming out after years of secrets and silence and looking the other way. She felt like she'd been punched in the stomach. In the background you could hear the prat…