Survivors Blog: Samuel
Samuel
Alumnus, Wayward. Providing hope, encouragement and infidelity-specific insight to anyone in recovery from betrayal.
How to Change the Dance in Recovery
Samuel shares ways to change particular marriage dances in recovery from affairs and infidelity.
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Changing the Dance of Ambivalence
Today, Samuel continues his video discussion on how to deal with the ambivalent spouse after infidelity.
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Self Pity: Part 3
Today Samuel discusses in his video how to disarm self pity and find personal healing in recovery from infidelity.
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Self Pity: Part 2
Samuel continues his video series on self pity with a pointed discussion and how it can diffuse momentum in restoration and personal recovery following infidelity and affairs.
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Self Pity: Part 1
Samuel begins a new series on the unfaithful's journey through self pity after the disclosure of infidelity and affairs.
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Get Healthy for You
Samuel discusses the motivation for recovery following the discovery of infidelity and affairs, and why it's important to know why you're getting healthy.
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Infidelity: This Just Sucks
Samuel gets pointed in today's video about the struggle to endure the consequences of infidelity and how to make it through to the other side of an affair.
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What do You do When Your Spouse is Ambivalent?
Samuel tackles in today's video one of the most difficult scenarios in infidelity recovery: ambivalence.
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The Two Pillars of Safety in Recovery
In today's video, Samuel continues his discussion on safety in recovery and the two main components it requires. A follow up to: It's About Safety, Not Trust
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How do You Handle Contempt?- The 4 Horsemen Series - Part 3
While in recovery from affairs and infidelity, contempt can be a struggle for both the unfaithful and betrayed spouse. Today, continuing the 4 part video series discussing the four horsemen, I address contempt in part 3 of my 4 part video series and how to diffuse it.
GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.
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How do You Handle Defensiveness?- The 4 Horsemen Series - Part 2
Many unfaithful spouses, myself included, struggle with defensiveness after the discovery of their affairs and infidelity. Today, continuing the discussion on the four horsemen, I discuss defensiveness today in part 2 of my 4 part video series.
GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.
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How do You Handle Stonewalling?- The 4 Horsemen Series - Part 1
Samuel continues the long awaited discussion on the four horsemen with a 4 part video series, starting with stonewalling. This is a common issues in many marriages, especially those recovering from infidelity and affairs.
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GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.
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A Healthy Distrust
Today Samuel shares in his video, the principle of healthy distrust which helps to prevent relapse in recovery after infidelity.
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Is That What You Feel?
Samuel shares a humorous story in today's video about one of his therapy sessions with Samantha which changed the entire scope of their recovery following infidelity.
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It's About Safety, Not Trust
Watch today's video from Samuel as he discusses what's essential in recovery after an affair and, shockingly for most, it's not trust.
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What Does Abandonment do for You?
Samuel shares in his video about his and Samantha's journey through abandonment and how it actually reset their lives while recovering from his affair.
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Have you Suffered Abandonment in Recovery?
In today's video, Samuel begins a new mini series on abandonment in recovery from infidelity and affairs.
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Finding Gratitude as an Unfaithful
In today's video, Samuel shares more of his own personal journey into finding gratitude as an unfaithful spouse.
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How to Make a Repair Attempt
Today Samuel discusses in this video, how to overcome the four horseman through what John Gottman calls 'repair attempts'.
GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.
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Stay Away from the 4 Horsemen
In today's video, Samuel discusses the four horsemen in recovery including the #1 predictor of divorce in marriage and recovery.
GOTTMAN, J. M., & SILVER, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York, Three Rivers Press.
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Do the Unfaithful Have Reminders and Triggers?
Today, Samuel discusses in his video the latest questions by many of whether or not unfaithful spouses have triggers and reminders.
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What is Samantha's Self War?
While Samuel fights many self wars, Samantha, his betrayed spouse, does as well. Today he addresses just one of Samantha's self wars.
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What is Your Self War? - Part 2
Today Samuel provides follow up to his first self war blog. What is Your Self War? - Part 1
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How do you Show Empathy or Remorse to Your Betrayed Spouse?
Today i share a few key points on how to connect with your betrayed spouse through empathy and remorse.
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What's Your Plan When Reminders Come?
Today I discuss how to handle reminders, or what seem like sucker punches to your recovery.
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Shattered Dreams
Have your dreams shattered? Maybe old dreams need to shatter to give birth to new dreams for you in recovery from infidelity.
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What is Your Self-War? - Part 1
Samuel discusses what it means to fight your own self war through recovery from infidelity.
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How Samantha Was Wooing Me Back
Samuel discusses some pivotal moments of Samantha's recovery which helped save Samuel from himself.
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