Survivors Blog: Samuel
Samuel
Alumnus, Wayward. Providing hope, encouragement and infidelity-specific insight to anyone in recovery from betrayal.
Are You Frustrated Enough Yet?
I will attempt to describe a tipping point in recovery work which can set the stage for long term success or failure when recovering from infidelity.
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How Do You Protect Yourself?
Samuel provides insight on methods to protect yourself as both a betrayed and unfaithful spouse.
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This is Your Problem
Samuel uncovers a common fallacy in healing from infidelity.
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Life Does Not Cooperate With Bravery in Recovery
Samuel shares about being brave in recovery and the principle that life doesn't always cooperate with a desire to get healthy.
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The Day I Moved Out and My Soul Shook
Samuel shares a dark moment after his wife discovered his infidelity when he moved out of the house and had to confront his reality.
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Why I Hated Samantha's Journal
Samuel shares the lessons he learned the hard way about Samantha's journal and going deep in recovery.
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Is the Unfaithful Spouse Now Worthless?
Samuel shares a pointed story of how his recovery from infidelity was transformed when he found freedom from shame and hopelessness.
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How You Respond is How You Win or Lose
Samuel discusses how to win in recovery from infidelity.
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Why the Betrayed Hate to Let Their Guard Down
Samuel discusses the journey of the betrayed: one of the reasons they may not be vulnerable with the unfaithful.
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Understanding the Layers of Infidelity
Samuel ties together the many layers of infidelity and how it affects both spouses in affair recovery.
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How Do You Face Infidelity Head On?
Today, Samuel shares more of his own story and how to face infidelity with courage and bravery.
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Not Just Another Christmas
Samuel discusses how to make it through the holidays, though the marriage's future may be uncertain.
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It's Out: I'm Forgiven and We're Good, Right?
Today Samuel discusses the mindset many spouses take towards their own forgiveness in the marriage for their infidelity.
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Learning to Love What You Hate
Samuel tackles a difficult yet life giving stage of recovery where spouses have to make a decision to love, instead of hate.
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How Long Do I Wait Before I See Change?
Today Samuel discusses a few key stages spouses find themselves in, as they pursue restoration and healing after the discovery of infidelity.
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How Can I Get Through to My Unfaithful Spouse?
Today Samuel discusses what typically brings change in an unfaithful spouse: pain, the threat of loss and consequences.
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Loving Your Spouse During the 'In-Between' Stage
Samuel discusses one of the most difficult, yet important parts in the process of recovery after infidelity.
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4 Things to do When You're Circling Out of Control
Samuel discusses a moment where he remembered 4 things his mentor told him to do to survive the chaos of recovery.
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Why the Unfaithful Needs to Choose Their Spouse
Today Samuel continues the discussion on neediness and how the unfaithful must 'choose' their spouse, not 'need' them only.
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When Betrayed Spouses Are Perceived As Needy Or Codependent
Samuel discusses the mindset of some unfaithful spouses and perceived codependency.
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Making Your Spouse Feel Safe
Samuel discusses what safety is and why it's needed for recovery after infidelity.
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Understanding Safety in Recovery
Samuel discusses what safety is and why it's needed for recovery.
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Why Not Commit to the Marriage? Part 3
Samuel wraps up this series by discussing more barriers that couples face after the discovery of infidelity and how to overcome those barriers and choose to get healthy.
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Why Not Commit to the Marriage? Part 2
Samuel continues this series sharing more barriers that keep couples from committing to get healthy after discovery infidelity.
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Why Not Commit to the Marriage? Part 1
Committing to get healthy doesn't mean committing to save the marriage. Today Samuel begins a short series on reasons why couples typically won't commit to getting healthy.
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Are They Justifying the Affair?
Samuel discusses the mind of the unfaithful and how justification has to play a part in understanding why spouses cheat.
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It's Ok To Not Be Ok
During recovery, you just don't feel ok sometimes, let's discuss this fact and how to cope with the uncertainty of infidelity.
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Underlying Resentment
Samuel discusses one of the most difficult aspects of the unfaithful's recovery: underlying resentment.
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